Dating after alcohol recovery
If you're feeling good and confident in yourself and you think you're ready then go for it.
One thing I'll say is that be ready for some emotions you haven't felt in a while sober.
The advice to not date or become involved with someone intimately during early recovery is a frequent point of resistance.
“'Two sickies don’t make a welly,’ my 80-year-old sponsor used to say.” According to James, a 33-year-old photographer from Los Angeles who’s been sober for eight years, when he first came to AA he listened to what his sponsor told him and religiously avoided dating women in the program.
He didn’t date anyone at all for the first six months—he was in a Salvation Army men’s rehab anyway, so it wasn't like he had much of a choice.
But when he finally entered the realm of sober dating, it was with a good chunk of sobriety under his belt, a strong program and a great relationship with his sponsor.
Did that mean he immediately dated “appropriately” and “healthily”? “I spent five years dating messed up speed freaks and growing pot for a living.
When an individual can’t refrain from having sex or beginning a romantic relationship for the 30-plus days required in drug rehab, it can be a sign of an underlying love or sex addiction. While drugs may be the most obvious object of addiction, when they are taken away the individual may quickly find another “high” in sex or relationships.